Knowing how to handle attachment is Important

Summary

From the moment we are in this dimension of forms, we interrelate to it in all its manifestations, we are in contact with the attachment, where the attention, emotions need to be well managed in order not to enslave him, since attentive to our personal growth.

When we connect with the addiction and determining its scope, its impact, this can lead to serious situations, they may even affect us in the mental and physical, hence the importance of knowing handle, manage.

Keywords

Unit, suffering, behavior, growth, scope

Basic entries, considerations, scope

Wikipedia reminds us, that attachment is defined as an intense emotional attachment, durable, unique character, which develops and consolidates between two people, through their interaction with one another, and whose immediate objective is to seek and maintain proximity moments of threat and that this provides security, comfort and protection. It is not an intangible feeling, but observable behaviors that begin reflexively

Many in analyzing the attachment focus on emotions, feelings, especially with people, but can also occur with things and lead to habits, customs, sometimes affecting our growth behavior.

This brings us parasaber.com that many studies find that attachment and early relationships with family, especially parents, have a decisive influence on personality.

In adults, the plot thickens. Attachment in adults is characterized by fear of freedom and that is when we lose our inner power.

So you could say that when attachment we become dependent on one person, an event, a circumstance such as a foreign security, not as a foothold inside.

The attachment often makes us lose power because it makes us miss the point of inner support and this is autonomy.

Autonomy is the fundamental condition of the personality. Only when we are autonomous, we agree, we recognize, we own our lives, we have the control.

Clara Delgado for their parties invites us to consider that we have this, that attachment is an emotional state of compulsive attachment to a particular person or thing, driven by the belief that without that thing or person, it is possible to be happy. Therefore not surprising that your mind says:

Can not be happy if you have this or that, or if such person is not you. .

Can not be happy if such person does not love you. Can not be happy unless you have a secure job. Can not be happy if it does not give security to your future. Can not be happy if you are alone.

Can not be happy unless you have a body to fashion. Can not be happy if others act like that.

And when your mind says' can not be happy if. your mind is programmed to show consistently (if not for one thing, is another) that can not be happy. This is false! Not a single moment in your life when you do not have all you need to ... Be Happy.

Delgado cites Indeed, all the things that sticks, and without which it believes can not be happy, they are simply the reasons of fear. What makes you happy is not the situation surrounding it, but the thoughts in his mind

Wikipedia adds us further on this subject, that the attachment has a number of behavioral characteristics:

Strive to maintain proximity to the person being tied feeling Resist separation anxiety, isolation and abandonment by the loss Keeping a privileged sensory contact with the attachment figure Use the attachment figure as secure base from which to explore the physical and social world take refuge in the attachment figure in times of sadness, fear or discomfort, looking at her emotional support and welfare

We are invited to be present in addition to finding that there is a classification of types of attachment that has been built based on the strange situation technique designed by Mary Ainsworth. Establishes four categories:

Secure attachment: Occurs in 65% of babies. Babies with this type of attachment actively explore while they are alone with the attachment figure, and can visibly uneasy when separated from it. Often the baby greets the attachment figure with affection when he returns, and if you are very upset, try to come into physical contact with her. These babies are sociable with strangers while the mother is present. Resistant attachment: Occurs in 10% of babies. Babies with this type of attachment try to stay close to the attachment figure and explore little while she is present. Fret a lot when it goes away, but when he returns his reaction is ambivalent: it remains in its vicinity, but they can resist physical contact with her by being upset by the abandonment. To be highly wary of strangers, even in the presence of the attachment figure. Avoidant attachment: Occurs in 20% of babies. Babies with this type of attachment show little distress when separated from the attachment figure and generally shy away from it when it returns even try to gain your attention. They tend to be sociable with strangers, but can ignore them in the same way that prevents their attachment figure when he returns.

Disorganized / disoriented: It is between 5 and 10% of babies. A combination of strong attachment patterns and avoidant attachment. The baby may appear confused or near standing still and then abruptly away as the attachment figure is approaching.

Conclusion

I know how to handle our emotions in our relationships with people and things, take into account that this is necessary but oars give life to the suffering, dependence, consider that Buddhism teaches that attachment is a delusion that must be avoided, and eventually eliminated, but in Secret Mantra there is a method for transforming attachment into the spiritual path.

The attachment itself can not be used directly as a way because it is a hoax, and even the secret mantra should be finally abandoned. In authentic Secret Mantra practice, the bliss generated from attachment meditates on emptiness and thereby overcomes all the delusions, including attachment itself

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* Graduate Teacher, Faces, University of Carabobo. Exatec

* Annotations of chairs in organizational behavior and personal development, UC Faces

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